Even though the weather recently would lead us to believe otherwise, it does seem that the holiday season is upon us.

The Thanksgiving, Christmas, Kwanza, Hanukkah, etc. season means many different things to various people. For me right now it means dismay at the sudden appearance of Christmas trees where the lawn mowers used to be-not to mention the spectacle of an animated decorative Grinch in a Santa hat and riding a Harley.

Even though the holiday season can be hectic and bring on unique challenges, for most of us this is a happy time of year. For many, though, November and December are emotionally the low point of the year. This is especially true for those who have lost a loved one, who are separated from family and friends, or who are alone for any reason.

The lack of daylight during the winter also plays a role in depression. Shortening daylight hours and the sudden switch from Daylight Savings Time mean fewer opportunities to enjoy the cheering effects of sunshine.

Women seem to be harder hit than men by depression at any time of the year. The National Institute of Mental Health reports that about 12 million women each year in the United States are affected by depression — that’s twice the rate in men.

Women generally are more dependent on close relationships than most men, so that lack of those relationships takes a greater emotional toll. Women also are usually the ones responsible for the extra tasks during the holidays, leading to increased stress.

If you are the type of woman who makes big plans for the holidays, only to end up stressed and exhausted and hating the whole affair, maybe you need to take a step back this year. Keep in mind that not everything needs to be perfect, and that the human interactions are the most important part.

Maybe the lights don’t need to be hung at all this year, and maybe the decorations could be a little less elaborate. Maybe everyone won’t receive the perfect gift, or maybe some will get the gift of your time and attention instead of a box with a perfect ribbon.

If money woes are a part of the holiday stress this year, maybe that can be a good opportunity to refocus on the deeper meanings of the holidays. Children probably won’t remember that fancy expensive toy, but they will form long-lasting memories of family traditions and celebrations.

Depression is a problem for many women at other times of the year also. If you find that you feel sad or hopeless, or if you find that you're no longer interested in things you once were, you may be suffering from major depression.

Many physical symptoms can also be sign of depression. Even though you may not feel “depressed”, a change in your sleep patterns or energy level or appetite can be a signal that all is not well. See your doctor if you have a concern.

Not all depression requires the use of medication for relief, though there are many types of medication which are very helpful. Sometimes just acknowledging the problem and finding a sympathetic and receptive ear is enough to start healing.

If you think that you may be suffering from depression, I urge you to take steps today to find help. Contrary to what many people believe, the use of anti-depressant medication or visiting a therapist does not label someone “crazy.” Depression is one of the most common diagnoses among women today.

Here’s wishing you a very happy and healthy, and sane, holiday season. Make it your goal to emerge in January unfrazzled and serene, ready to take on the challenges of a new year.

Dr. Janet Matthews is the OBGYN physician at The Women’s Center, a service of Muskogee Regional Medical Center, 687-3050. Send questions, comments or suggestions for future columns to janet.matthews@capellahealth.com.