MuskogeePhoenix.com, Muskogee, OK

October 23, 2012

Boys Bash brings good message


— It takes two to tango, and it takes two to make a baby – a man and a woman, or sometimes a boy and a girl.

When a child is born to teen parents, the parents and the child face a number of disadvantages.

Reducing teen pregnancies is in the best interest of the community, teens and their families.

Girls have heard the message of abstinence for a long time. Boys are hearing the message, too.

Last week, preteen boys from area schools were encouraged to draw a line they will not cross when they’re with a girl.

The annual Boys Bash, sponsored by the Pregnancy Resource Center, told about 650 boys from area middle schools to set limits on how far they would go with a girl, and to use trusted friends to help them honor those limits.

Boys can feel as if they are expected to have sex.

“This world has all kinds of pressure on you to be sexually active,” Boulevard Christian Church family minister Steve Moss said at the bash.

Moss encouraged boys to decide early what parts of a girl’s body they will not touch, and to declare that line to friends.

He told the boys to turn peer pressure into a positive force by having friends encourage them to “defend the line.”

In recent years teen birth rates have declined in the United States, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

The CDC says that teens appear to be less sexually active, and that more teens who are sexually active appear to be using contraception.

Reasons for the decline have been a matter for discussion, but abstinence deserves at least part of the credit. Boys don’t become fathers when they aren’t having sex, just as girls don’t become mothers.

Boys Bash is an effective approach to abstinence education, reaching boys at the age when sexuality is stirring, getting the message of abstinence out before most sexual activity begins.